What is perfect love to you? Is it something you feel you show your children? Is it the love you have for your spouse? God is perfect love. So many times we think that we have the perfect love figured out. ‘If I could just have a man that would buy me roses and go on walks with me, and send me love notes, that would be the perfect kind of love.’ ‘If I could find a woman who would cook me dinner every night, and rub my feet after a long days work, that would be the perfect kind of love I want!’ We all have this image on what we feel a “perfect love” would be. We search for this love sometimes for years, and even once we think we have found it, we still feel some sort of emptiness, we still feel a sense of loneliness. So we ask ourselves ‘why’? It is because we chase after what we think is a perfect love. We search for what we think will bring us joy and happiness in a human being. Yes, our significant others bring us those things, or if you are single, yes there is someone out there for you that will be those things… BUT they are not and will never have perfect love.
Perfect in the dictionary means: having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be. Some synonyms for perfect are: ideal, model, without fault, faultless, flawless, consummate, quintessential, exemplary, best, ultimate. As much as we want to believe there is a human out there that can give us perfect love, there isn’t. God’s love is pure and perfect. Human love is flawed. However, with God’s love within, love is then perfected through us.
In the Bible it talks about God’s perfect love and says:
“16 So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. 17 By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world.18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. 19 We love because he first loved us.”- 1 John 4: 16-19
Just think about that for a moment… that “we love because HE first loved us.” The love that we show to our spouses, the love we show to our children, the love we show to our family, the love we show to our friends, is ALL because of Him! Without Him, there is NO such thing as love.
When God lays something on my heart I want to be able to share, and now I feel like He has provided this as an outlet to do so. I am not sure who needed to read this, but I pray it has touched someone. Let go of thinking you will ever find in this world something or someone that will have the perfect love. Reach out to God, search for His love, ask Him to reveal that love to you, and you will never have to search again.